Wedding negativity has been bothering me for a few months now. Why do people act like it is a chore to attend weddings? I mean, how can you go wrong with free food, music, and often booze? And then there's the whole celebration of love thing.
A few nights ago, Mr. H and I grabbed a few drinks with some friends after work. One of these friends says she is going to a wedding next weekend where the bride is (gasp!) 22. Now I certainly wasn't ready to get married at 22, but I'm 24. That's not much older. Then someone chimed in, "It's stupid to get married young."
To that, I have to say this: Just because you didn't get married young, doesn't mean its wrong.
Case #1: My parents. Mom- 21, Dad- 23 (just 12 days after his bday). Married for 33 years.
Case #2: Mr. H's parents. Mom- 20, Dad 23 (I think). Married 35 years. And Mrs. H switched colleges after two years so she could live with her husband. Gasp!
Case #3: My sister. Sis- 22, Hubby- 25. Celebrating their 5th anniversary in June. Started dating when she was 17. Were together 5 years before they got married just a few weeks after her college graduation.
The point is people make life decisions that are right for them. So why do others judge so much? Even I often say, why would you want to get married at 21 or 22? Shouldn't I say why not? If you are in love and know you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, shouldn't the rest of your life start as soon as possible?
On our wedding day, our parents will bring nearly 70 years of marriage. All because they were married young. I think that is pretty great. Don't you?
Monday, May 25, 2009
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I concur! There is a smart and a less-smart way of getting married young. I just turned 23 and will be marrying my 24 year old fiance in a few weeks. Of course, we have been dating for seven years! So I hate when people say it's stupid to get married young. Obviously we have thought it through and are ready to get married after living together for several years.
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